How Dads Can Bond with Baby

Posted by Cindy Perry on 8/10/2016

how dad can bond with baby

Sometimes it can be tough for dads to feel like they have a strong connection to their children. Whereas moms fall in love during their pregnancy, fathers start on day one. Plus, more often than not, moms play a bigger role in the day-to-day care of baby while they recover from the delivery. Here are some ways dads can both with baby so they don’t feel left out.

1. Mom should leave them alone for a bit

If mom spends the most time with baby, it can be easy to “take over” if she doesn’t think things are being done properly. “That’s now how she likes to be held,” she might say, or “Here just let me do it.” If mom is constantly hovering nearby when dad is spending time with baby, he’ll never feel like they have a special relationship. Neither parent should be afraid to leave their spouse with the baby.

2. Dad should hold baby as much as possible

If mom is breastfeeding or the daily caregiver, she’ll spend a lot of time with the baby in her arms. Dad can squeak in his own physical contact time by holding baby whenever possible. Always remember that you don’t need a reason to a hold your baby. Hold baby while you read a book or the newspaper or check your email (and read aloud – they love voices!). Hold baby while you relax and watch TV or when you’re walking around a store (instead of loading them in the stroller).

3. Start learning songs and rhymes

Sing nursey rhymes and baby songs as early as possible, even when baby doesn’t understand what you’re doing. Over time they will associate the fun and silly sounds with dad and begin to cement a bond. Eventually they’ll sing along! As you sing or play games, use baby’s name as much as you can so they associate it with themselves and you.

4. Give lots of a touch

Children respond well to physical contact. In fact, it satisfies an emotional and intellectual need for stimulation. Even if dad isn’t holding baby, touch their hands, feet, legs, arms and belly. Move baby’s extremities during playtime.

5. Play a big role in sleep

During the first few months, it will take work to help your baby fall and stay asleep. Make this a two-person job. When baby needs to be rocked, dad should take a shift too. Falling asleep is a vulnerable experience that kids have to learn. They bond strongly to whichever parent is part of that process, so make sure both are.

How did your baby’s father bond with your child?

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